i have a very analytical nature.  as such, i tend to make more of the situation than what is probably truly there.  my best friend, b, would always say, “bc, just let it be“. brilliant.

so last week i was picking my guy-friends brain on needing a date for this thing i’m going on.  i wanted to ask this specific guy.  it went something like this:

what if he doesn’t like me? what if he thinks it’s just another friend thing? what if i don’t want it to be more than friend thing? what if i do? what if i don’t know? does he pick me up? do i meet him there?  i want him to pick me up though.  who pays for dinner? i invited him, but we’re going out to dinner with 2 other couples. do i pay for us both? is that demeaning or norm these days?  do i tell him it’s  a date or just a thing? the other 2 are couples, would he feel too weird not knowing them really?

the reply from my guy-friend was:

glad to know at least one girl gets what the guys go through when asking a girl out. now, you are over-analyzing this.  just ask him.  it’s not the end of the world if he says no, right?

me:

yeah, you’re right. it’s not. be prepared if he says no though – you’re my backup & you will pay for dinner after putting me through all of this.

t-minus 3 weeks before the big night.  we’ll see.  so much could happen really.  nothing like a good week on of paddleboarding & sea turtle sightings to clear the mind.