anniversary

December 19, 2011 at 11:23 pm · Filed under Uncategorized and tagged: attractive, breathe, churn, family, grace, love, randomness

tonight was a very lovely night – hard but lovely.  i had dinner at my adopted (thru church) family.  it’s their 20th year anniversary of marriage tomorrow.  i’m getting teary eyed just thinking about it.

we were having a lovely pre-dinner chat & donna turns around & says ‘gary, help me clean off the table.  we just won’t be able to eat with our stuff on it.’  i turn around & on one side of the table is a bible with a notebook & another book next to it.  then there’s the center piece of the red poinsettia and on the other side is what looks like a mirrored image of the previous side: bible, notebook, other book.  they both laughed & said how they like to do their studies in the same room.  it looked so perfect.   throughout dinner they told me words of wisdom (because i asked) about the secrets to a good marriage. things like they believe the other person didn’t mean to hurt them, they each have to give 150% because you’re in it together not for individual benefits, choose to remember the best about the other during frustrations, etc.   it was lovely.

gary asked me if something was wrong & it was all i could do to not have an absolute breakdown.  although, i did have tears & couldn’t speak.  ok so i had a breakdown if you so choose to call it that.   i finally choked out ‘it’s just that i know you guys have had troubles throughout your years, but i so desperately want a marriage as beautiful as yours’.  one that forgives, one that looks at the good more than the frustrations, one that respects and loves, one that gives 150% because 50/50 just doesn’t cut it. one that gives, one that seeks the others good, one that pours into and out of, one that shows grace, one that is honest, one that grows, one that nurtures, one that doesn’t pester or control…and i know it exists because i’ve seen it for years in them.

it may be the holidays & it may be that i’m just having a girl moment & it may be that a blizzard is prohibiting my holiday travel plans.  however, i will still want this next week, next year, even next decade.  preferably on this side of eternity.

hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life ~ proverbs 13:12 esv

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