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anniversary
tonight was a very lovely night – hard but lovely. i had dinner at my adopted (thru church) family. it’s their 20th year anniversary of marriage tomorrow. i’m getting teary eyed just thinking about it.
we were having a lovely pre-dinner chat & donna turns around & says ‘gary, help me clean off the table. we just won’t be able to eat with our stuff on it.’ i turn around & on one side of the table is a bible with a notebook & another book next to it. then there’s the center piece of the red poinsettia and on the other side is what looks like a mirrored image of the previous side: bible, notebook, other book. they both laughed & said how they like to do their studies in the same room. it looked so perfect. throughout dinner they told me words of wisdom (because i asked) about the secrets to a good marriage. things like they believe the other person didn’t mean to hurt them, they each have to give 150% because you’re in it together not for individual benefits, choose to remember the best about the other during frustrations, etc. it was lovely.
gary asked me if something was wrong & it was all i could do to not have an absolute breakdown. although, i did have tears & couldn’t speak. ok so i had a breakdown if you so choose to call it that. i finally choked out ‘it’s just that i know you guys have had troubles throughout your years, but i so desperately want a marriage as beautiful as yours’. one that forgives, one that looks at the good more than the frustrations, one that respects and loves, one that gives 150% because 50/50 just doesn’t cut it. one that gives, one that seeks the others good, one that pours into and out of, one that shows grace, one that is honest, one that grows, one that nurtures, one that doesn’t pester or control…and i know it exists because i’ve seen it for years in them.
it may be the holidays & it may be that i’m just having a girl moment & it may be that a blizzard is prohibiting my holiday travel plans. however, i will still want this next week, next year, even next decade. preferably on this side of eternity.
hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life ~ proverbs 13:12 esv
spinning
ummm, what happened? 9 days until Christmas?? that’s madness. bloody madness. my head is spinning.
ok, so it’s been a been a fabulous trip to az this week – a few days of 70 degrees never hurt anybody. my body is thankful for the vitamin d.
let’s review the high & low for the week (we used to do this in college with some girlfriends of mine – oh the fun)
high: being told…
bc, you can’t help being attractive
this after i was complaining that only men my dad’s age seem interested. it was more than flattering though.
low: ha, well, i guess this is a good thing – i really can’t think of one.
in fact, i can think of about 3 more really great high’s for the week: txt’s/chat’s from cutie’s, dinner at the elephant bar (my fav restaurant that closed down a few years ago), and a new pair of shoes to go with my magic dress (the dress that no matter what my mood is amazing).
this was such a great week. i didn’t have anywhere to be. i didn’t have any responsibilities besides my job. i truly enjoyed this week so much. next week will be great too – back in the swing of things. for tonight though, i’m enjoying my last few moments of just being here & meeting new people. i’m truly blessed.
purple mountains majesty indeed
o holy night
my church is doing a carols theme for the Christmas season. as such, i think posting carols is a fabulous way to start off the week…imagine being there…
o holy night! the stars are brightly shining,
it is the night of the dear savior’s birth.
long lay the world in sin and error pining.
till he appeared and the soul felt its worth.
a thrill of hope the weary world rejoices,
for yonder breaks a new and glorious morn.
fall on your knees!
oh, hear the angel voices!
o night divine,
the night when Christ was born
oh yes, and the best video rendition ever to be made
winter again?
i’m sorry but what?? i walked out of the house today in flip flops (on my way to my semi-annual hair cut) to a raining downpour. i called my parents to complain about this extreme weather condition, and they proceed to tell me about a blizzard whiteout they were currently driving thru. huh? when did winter come? i don’t understand why it has to come every year. can’t just one year we get a bonus like ‘hey! 78 degrees year round for the go-green efforts! keep up the good work!’
here’s to fireplaces, hot cider, friends & family that make winter endurable…and the random trips to the beach.
holiday parties
i have this holiday party to go to next week. cider, holiday treats, holiday fun – oh yes, and i’m supposed to bring a date. this shouldn’t be that difficult. i mean, it’s just a date. a holiday date on top of that which is double pseudo-dateish. nonetheless, yesterday was pretty hilarious. here’s how a few (that’s right, multiple askings) went:
bc: so do you like christmas parties? i have a great one next saturday…
guy: Christmas parties yes. next sat no. it’s a lame date.
ok great. next!
bc: so there’s this thing next saturday & i think it should be fun…want to join?
guy: is there a single girl there you want to set me up with?
umm…no that would be just me.
bc: there’s a party. there will be no single men there. however, there’s no single men who don’t sound arrogant replying to your requests in town anyway or would be the very definition of awkward in this party circumstance . want to go?
bc: absolutely!
and that my friends is how i’m going to roll…solo. there are a few other gents that i think would be fun, but for the sake of what little ego i have left & the fact that i’m a tad burned out on dates…i think solo shall be grand for this particular evening. happy holiday parties to all.
